Special Holiday…

The Holidays are a time for family, food and celebration! Although I don’t religiously celebrate the season… I can honestly say I take part in everything else.  I love holiday decorating… I love holiday food.  I love sales, presents, giving (getting ), I just love this time of year!!

This year is going to to be particularly special for me.  I get to see my family and friends in Bangladesh and what’s more… my new extended family.

This holiday is going to be a unique experience.  I will be staying with my husband’s family.  I will be surrounded by new people.  People to whom I will be related to that a few short years ago were strangers to me.  The last few days I’ve been thinking about this specific fact.  All my life, I’ve had a family.  People who I, by birthright, am related to.  Now I am stepping into the shoes of a new bond.  It’s like a rebirth… being thrown into a new family with new obligations and expectations.  I am both excited and nervous at the same time. I have no idea what to expect, I don’t have any idea what I am going to see or experience.  All I know is that this Bangladesh trip is going to be the most unique ever…

This holiday will be the best I have ever had…. <3

A Shahzadi Affair is born!

I am currently engrossed in my newest venture, but i thought i would take a minute  to post that I have just launched my very own wedding coordinating company.  Please have a look at the website and follow me on twitter!

I’ve been wanting to do this for years, but now I feel like I am really reay to jump into the unknown and see what i can do for myself! I have never felt so excited for something ever before… I can’t even put into words what this feels like!

Alhumdulillah <3  all i know is it feel good!

 

3 things I’ve learned from 3 months of marriage

Tomorrow will mark the three month anniversary of my wedding to Mr.Shahzadi. (That’s right, he’s taking my name!)

So I thought, why not write about the three lessons I have learned in the last three months of being married.

3. Marriage doesn’t make life easier. 

I realize that life is harder now that I am married.  Yes, there are two of us, I can make him take the garbage out and clean the bathrooms because I don’t feel like doing it.  However, I have to realize that it’s not all about me.  I know. SHOCKING.

I have had to understand that he had a way of life too, before I took up half his closet!  I think I often forget that when I moved in, he had to change many things about himself.  He had to stop wearing things that I don’t necesarily like… he had to eat “civilized”, essentially he had to be more husband then dude.

I think I have come to terms with the fact that even though my life turned upside down (like, entirely shifted the axis of my world), his life didn’t entirely become “easier”.

The fact is… he has to live with a girl… and i have to live with a boy… three months.. and I’m still not used to it.

2. Arguments will always happen… always.

Maybe I was a little naive to think that when we would get married, we would argue less.  WRONG.  We argue all the time.  The type of people we are, neither one can be wrong.  I guess it has to do with the fact that, this is the first time our arguments are taking place face-to-face, rather then over the phone.  It’s hard to not go over-board when the person has no way of disconnecting the line or falling asleep while you are making your oh-so-very important point.

However, it seems that whatever we were fighting over just doesn’t linger forever.  That is the most important to me.  We fight. But, we get over it.  Quite quickly! Thank God.

3. Nothing is worth more then each other

They say that the first year is the hardest.  For us, it’s been a roller-coaster to say the least.  But like all good amusement rides, they throw you for loops when you least expect it, it’s scary, it can push the limits of your sanity… but for some reason, we keep going back for more.

Mr. Shahzadi, thank you for the amazing ride… Happy 3rd Monthaversary.

i hate laundry

i hate laundry.
i have always done the laundry in my house. so obviously, this was not a job i was unfamiliar with. but in the process of doing the laundry today, there was a very fibrous piece of paper left in a pocket. the whole load was dark…

you can imagine just what ensued. that’s right. there are paper fibers on all the clothes.
now, i don’t know what to do. I am steaming mad. its all black too!! eff my life.

any ideas?

Weekend scribbles

The weekend it turning out to be awesome!

Friday was a very good day. My little sister came to the apartment bearing her customary gift – a single flower plucked from a stranger’s lawn on her way from the subway station. She always manages to make me so happy with her presence. We watched The Color Purple and then had to run a few errands going from one end of Toronto, to the other, anything is fun when you have a little sister to run around with you… I don’t know, I think, for me to be happy, I have to share everything with someone else i love… we shopped and caught up on all things us. Even though I’m married now, its super important for her to know that i am her sister first, and a wife second. I have to admit though, she is my lucky charm, when she’s around, its always positive energy, and good things Thanks babycakes…

We had iftar that night with family and celebrated getting all together and just being around each other. I love seeing family. we went to chill with friends after dinner and moved more of my things to the apartment the next day. even last night, we spent with more friends. Great food, good conversations and crazy antics by the husband and his buddies…

I love this new chapter…

Living with them two ~ {episode 1} “Padded Seat”

So my new living arrangement consists of my husband and his little brother…
Previously, they lived a life of bachelorhood, leaving stuff in the sink, using the coffee table as a collector of dishes and a media center, but most of all, a habit that they had become used to was leaving the toilet seat up.

When I infiltrated their pad, there were many things that changed… the kitchen’s been reorganized, the closets divided and his wardrobe pretty much cut in half… lets just say that I’ve made my presence known.
One of the things I asked my brother in law (nicely, the first three times..) was to make sure that he put the toilet seat down once he has used the bathroom… now I don’t know about you, but I don’t think this is a huge favour of me to ask, I mean, do I really need to see that?

So after many attempts, he still kept forgetting, which is just plain simple gross. I told him the next time I see the toilet seat up, I will put pads ( sanitary napkins) all over the seat! He must have thought that I was bluffing…

I don’t do empty threats.

True to form, my little bonus brother forgot… and I got my ammunition…
I went into the bathroom and preceded to go to town with my pads… only to see my husband try to reason with me that pads cost money, why waste them on teaching him a lesson???
I was not going to stop… but I didn’t end up using the whole box…

needless to say, my brother in law walked into the bathroom faced with my little surprise… and let me tell you… every time he uses the bathroom, he goes back to check on the seat.

Mrs. Farah Nuri Hossain

The biggest day of my life happened almost a month ago and I am writing about it now…I guess you could say that things were super crazy around here for a bit. The last month was a whirlwind experience. The love of my life and I finally tied the knot. After 6 years together, we spent the big day with our family and 300 of our friends. We had put one year of planning into this one day and I mean, minor things aside, it was the perfect day.

The last month has been quite unique to say the least. I got to live with a new set of parents, a new sibling. Wow, is all I can say. MashAllah, the in-laws are so amazingly easy going, I really had to do nothing for four weeks. They loved me like their own… when you make a choice to get married, you only hope to get an amazing family. I can honestly say, I did get one. I won’t lie, they are entirely different from the family I come from… I had to adjust and I learned that there is more then one way to do something.

Now as I sit here, my in-laws have left for home, even though I miss not having some sort of parental shade to guide us… I am sitting in MY apartment… with MY whole life ahead of me, with my new husband by my side.. from this point on, I am living on my own terms…

Thankful

I was in the car with her about 2 years ago and we had driven by a car accident scene. As she passed by, i noticed her murmur to herself, what looked like a little prayer. I asked her, what she just said, she replied, I was just saying a little prayer for the people in the car hoping that everything will work out and that no one get hurt…

that always stuck with me… and today, i believe that her good karma, came back to her as a blessing.
It is because of this good karma, she walked away almost unharmed. I don’t entirely know what could have happened, but all I know is, it could be a LOT worse than it was.

Her God was looking out for her, and I know that today, I am much more thankful a person than I was yesterday.

I love you babycakes.. <3

Less than three months to go till the BIG DAY!!!

I thought that at some point, the excitement might give way to -okay, that’s enough wedding planning – but… it hasn’t happened! I LOVE THIS PROCESS! We have all the major things done. Almost everything is booked and ready to roll. I only have stationary to finish working on…

with three months to go, the huge thing on our plate is the ENTERTAINMENT! I cant wait for the holud! I am so excited for the performances and participation from our nearest and dearest. I can’t believe that so many people love us so much that they are going to help us put together a show that people wont forget for a while! The mister is stoked as he gets to do what he does best! -write skits-

We are so humbled and honored to have so many of you be part our big day, thanks does not seem like enough.

~

random gushing… <3

Have you ever felt truly content?
The kind of content-ness that sweeps over you like a warm blanket, enveloping you in its softness?

Lately, with this wedding coming up, I felt like a crazy bridezilla just wanting to check ever possible thing off of the LIST… and in the midst, being less then the ideal fiancée… I mean I totally got so sucked into this planning business that I just wasn’t a nice person.

But that ends now.

I am not going to say that I wont be slightly overexcited and want things done, um.. yesturday -_-’
But I don’t think its worth the aggravation we put the both of us through.
It’s fine. The cards will get printed… the transportation will get booked… we will have perfect photos.
Essentially, everything ill be fine because it’s our big day…

WOW
OUR BIG DAY!

I still can’t believe it’s coming so soon!

*sigh*

I am totally happy right now. The warm blanket type

i love you mister.